There are some stories that grip you so deeply, you can feel them in your bones. Betty’s story is one of those. In this episode of the podcast, I had the honor of sitting down with Betty Ringeisen – author, mom of nine, conference speaker, and Bible teacher. But before all of that, Betty was a mama in the trenches of grief after miscarriage… again and again. She lost five babies. And yet, what she carried through it all was not just pain, but a vision and a promise from the Lord.

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“There Will Be More Babies”

After three healthy, full-term pregnancies, Betty wasn’t expecting anything to go wrong. But at 10 weeks with her fourth child, she miscarried. It was a shock. A total upheaval. But as she cried out to the Lord in the middle of the loss, something happened.

God gave her a vision.

She saw herself in a rocking chair, nursing a baby, and heard Him say, “There will be more babies.” That vision became an anchor for her soul through what was to come: not just one miscarriage, but five. A near-fatal complication after a D&C. Blood tests. Wrong diagnoses. Doctors brushing her off with, “It’s your age.” But Betty clung to the vision. She clung to the voice of God.

Betty shared that her miscarriages didn’t just hurt physically, they tore through her soul. The later losses felt like full-on labor. One was delivered at home with the help of a midwife neighbor. Another ended in a panicked ER visit. And the most devastating of all came with twins – two heartbeats that stopped just before Christmas. She had surgery. There were complications. She woke up with no babies and a six-week recovery ahead. And yet, when her doctor told her she only had a 10% chance of carrying another baby, her response? “I forgive you. And… when can I try again?” Because she had heard the Lord. And that vision had become her lifeline.

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God’s Promise Fulfilled

Months later, after allowing her body to heal, Betty conceived again. And this time, the pregnancy held. She named him Jedidiah. The name came straight from Scripture – David and Bathsheba’s son. God told David, “Call him Jedidiah,” which means beloved of God. Betty had held onto that name since her first loss. And now, here he was. Her miracle. Her fulfillment. Her promised baby.

Today, Jedidiah is 18 years old. But the impact of his birth, and the journey it took to get to him, still ripples through Betty’s life, ministry, and the women she serves. Keeping God central amidst life’s pain and trials is non-negotiable for Betty. This is crucial throughout our fertility journeys also. What does God reveal in Scripture about women’s bodies? About infertility? Does He hear our cries? Come join us inside Fertility Framework to discover more.

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3 Anchors That Kept Her Going

When I asked Betty how she kept her hope through all of that, she shared three powerful truths. And if you’re in a season of waiting or grief right now, I want you to lean into these like a warm blanket around your heart.

• One day at a time. Betty quoted Jesus from Matthew 6: “Don’t worry about tomorrow; each day has enough trouble of its own.” And that became her rhythm. She didn’t think in months or trimesters. She didn’t plan ahead. She just asked, “Lord, what do You want me to do today?” That’s something I know many of us need. When the future feels scary or overwhelming, God just asks us to walk with Him through this one day. That’s it. (In Fertility Framework, we focus on not just the physical elements of conception and pregnancy, but also the spiritual elements. This is often overlooked, but Betty reminds us of how pivotal faith is throughout our fertility journies).

• Personal time with the Lord. More than anything, Betty emphasized the importance of hearing God’s voice. “If you don’t hear the Lord during a season of grief,” she said, “you’re going to have a difficult time.” He was her comfort. Her counselor. Her guide. She spent time journaling, praying, worshiping. She didn’t try to fix the pain. She let God sit with her in it. And He did.

• Community and storytelling. While Betty did face moments of isolation (especially after multiple losses), she also had a few key friends who showed up with compassion. People who let her cry. People who asked her to share her story. And now, she does the same. If she hears someone has had a miscarriage, she brings a meal, invites them for coffee and asks them to tell their story. Because grief is meant to be shared, not hidden. Healing often begins when we give voice to our pain. (If you are in need of a community who can share your experiences, join our Facebook Group where women are able to share their testimonies of both healing and pain).

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Her Book: Waiting for Jedidiah

Eventually, Betty began to write. Not to chase a platform, but to leave a legacy. She wanted her children and grandchildren to have her testimony written down and to know that their grandmother walked through the valley and came out with a deeper faith. She originally planned to write a different book first. But after praying and attending church, a priest stood up and said he wanted to create a memorial wall for all the babies lost to miscarriage in their congregation. That was her confirmation. She knew the miscarriage story had to come first. (If you have experienced a miscarriage and have questions about how to naturally support your body or what next steps to take, come join us inside Fertility Framework. I offer 1 on 1 coaching to help navigate through some of these challenges and would love to support you however I can).

Writing the book wasn’t easy. She wept through chapters. She sat with old grief. But her writing coach walked with her gently, and the book became a final layer of healing. Waiting for Jedidiah: How to Experience God’s Healing After a Miscarriage is more than just a memoir. It’s a love letter to the woman still in the waiting. It is a reminder that even if your story doesn’t look like hers, you still have a good Father. And He is still writing something beautiful.

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A Reflection for You

Maybe you’re reading this and you’ve lost a baby. Maybe you’re in your third month of TTC… or your thirtieth. Maybe you’re trying to believe in a promise that hasn’t been fulfilled yet. Wherever you are, I want you to know this:

God sees you.
God speaks to you.
And God walks with you.

Whether your Jedidiah comes this side of heaven or the next, you are not alone. You are not forgotten. Your grief is safe in the arms of Jesus.

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