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Hey, sweet sister. We are covering a topic that is both tender and tough—miscarriage. If you’ve found your way here, you may be questioning if you’re experiencing one, or perhaps you’re looking to support a friend in this heartbreaking situation. As someone who has experienced multiple miscarriages, I know how overwhelming and isolating it can feel. My goal is to provide clarity, encouragement, and a reminder that even in the darkest moments, God is our refuge.

Before we dive in, if you’re wondering about your hormonal health—whether you’re trying to conceive or recovering after a miscarriage—consider taking the Hormone Quiz. It’s a helpful starting point to better understand your body and how to move forward.

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Why Understanding Miscarriage Symptoms Matters

If you’ve ever questioned, “Is this normal?” or “What’s happening to my body?” during pregnancy, you’re not alone. Many women don’t realize what miscarriage symptoms can look like, and knowing what to watch for can provide clarity during a confusing and emotional time.

While prevention and proactive care, like charting your cycles and supporting your hormones, are important, it’s equally critical to recognize that some miscarriages are simply beyond our control. We live in a broken and fallen world, and while that reality is painful, it’s also a reminder to lean on God as our shelter and strength.

My Story

When I reflect on my own journey, one memory stands out vividly. 

When I was pregnant with our third child, I started experiencing sharp, intense cramping one evening in the shower. I crouched down and cried out in pain, and my husband came running in. At the time, we didn’t know what was happening, and I hoped it wasn’t anything serious.

A few days later, we went to a boutique ultrasound clinic to find out our baby’s gender, but instead, we learned there was no heartbeat. I’ll never forget that moment or the scream that came from deep within me when it was confirmed at my doctor’s office. Our baby was gone.

That moment shattered me. And yet, even through the pain, God was my refuge. 

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Finding Comfort in God

Miscarriage is deeply painful, and it’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to cry, scream, and feel the weight of your loss. But in the midst of that pain, I encourage you to turn to God. He is our Refuge, our Rock, and our Shelter. When our hearts feel faint and overwhelmed, He is there to carry us.

Lean on Psalm 61:2-4:

“From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.”

God is our refuge, and His Word is a source of hope when life feels unbearable. If you’re in this valley, I pray this verse brings comfort to your soul.

Five Common Signs of Miscarriage

Let’s talk about five signs that could indicate a miscarriage. These are not meant to alarm you, but rather to empower you with knowledge. If you notice any of these, reach out to your healthcare provider for support and guidance.

1. Spotting or Bleeding
   Spotting can happen for various reasons in early pregnancy, and not all spotting means miscarriage. Implantation bleeding, for example, is common and harmless. However, if you experience heavy bleeding, clots, or tissue passing, it’s important to contact your OB or midwife immediately.
2. Intense Cramping
   Mild cramping is often normal during early pregnancy, especially during implantation or hormonal shifts. But severe, sharp cramps that take your breath away can be a red flag. If the cramping persists or feels abnormal, seek medical advice.
3. Hormonal Shifts
   If you’ve been charting your cycle and notice a sudden drop in progesterone levels or HCG during early pregnancy, this can be a concern. Tools like Inito (use my referral code SETFREE15 for 15% off) can help track hormonal changes, providing valuable information for self-advocacy and conversations with your provider. 
4. Loss of Pregnancy Symptoms
   If you’ve been experiencing nausea, fatigue, or breast tenderness and those symptoms suddenly vanish, it may be a sign something isn’t right. While symptoms can fluctuate naturally, a noticeable and persistent loss is worth discussing with your healthcare provider.
5. Basal Body Temperature Drops
   Your basal body temperature (BBT) can offer insight into your pregnancy health. Progesterone, a critical hormone during pregnancy, typically keeps BBT elevated. A sudden and sustained drop in temperature could indicate hormonal shifts that might signal a problem.

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Navigating the Uncertainty of Miscarriage Symptoms

First, let me say I’m so sorry if you’re walking through this difficult moment. Facing symptoms of a potential miscarriage is heartbreaking, overwhelming, and filled with so many unknowns. Please know you are not alone in this. If you are feeling like you need extra support in this uncertain time, please check out my course Fertility Framework so that I can walk along side you. I want to meet you in this space with grace, hope, and encouragement.

If you’re in this situation, you’re likely wondering:

What path am I on?

1. Is this going to progress into a miscarriage?
2. Is this a false alarm, and the baby will be okay?
3. Can I get the right support quickly to carry this baby to term?

Together, we’re going to explore two paths:

1. What to do if you miscarry.
2. What to do if the baby holds on.

But before we dive into these options, I want to encourage you to start with this one thing:

Bring It to the Lord

I know how hard it can be to pray when your heart feels heavy and uncertain, but let this be your starting place. Lift your situation up to God with open hands. Ask Him for discernment, peace, and strength. Whether you get to keep this baby or not, you’ll need His presence to carry you through.

I’ve found so much comfort in remembering that every moment of our lives is held in God’s hands. We don’t have control over tomorrow, and while that truth can be hard, it’s also a beautiful reminder of how faithful God is. He sees you. He loves you. And He will walk with you through this.

What to Do If You Think You’re Miscarrying

If you’ve noticed symptoms of a potential miscarriage or you’re worried that you may already be in the process of losing your baby, here’s what you can do:

1. Reach Out to Your Provider

Contact your OB or midwife and let them know what you’re experiencing. Be honest about your symptoms and ask for their guidance. They will likely discuss options with you based on how far along you are in your pregnancy:

• Natural Management: In earlier pregnancies, your provider may recommend letting the process happen naturally at home. This can be the least invasive option.
• Medication: They may suggest medication to help your body complete the process.
• D&C Procedure: If tissue remains after a miscarriage, a D&C may be necessary to prevent infection.

Take time to pray about these options and decide what feels right for you. Don’t let anyone rush or pressure you. This is your body, your baby, and your decision.

2. Have Natural Tools on Hand

If heavy bleeding occurs, it can feel scary. There are natural options, like flaxseed oil, that may help reduce bleeding. I personally experienced significant bleeding during a miscarriage, and flaxseed oil made a remarkable difference in just a few hours.

It’s wise to keep natural tools on hand during pregnancy, not just for situations like this, but for overall support.

3. Give Your Body Time to Heal

Miscarriage is not only an emotional loss but a physical one. Your body needs time to recover. Allow yourself two to three full cycles before trying again. This time is crucial for your uterus to heal and your hormones to rebalance, which can reduce the risk of future complications.

4. Seek Support

Don’t walk through this alone. Miscarriage is often brushed off as “normal,” but your feelings are valid, and your pain matters. Reach out to someone you trust—a close friend, a mentor, or even me. I’m here to support you. There are tools and resources that can help you process this experience and care for your body moving forward. Book a free consult with me here so I can give you guidance and support through this trial. Or if you are feeling ready to jump into 1-on-1 support with me personally, check out my Fertility Framework VIP program.

What to Do If the Baby Holds On

If your baby is still holding on after symptoms of a potential miscarriage, it’s time to celebrate this little life! But I know how hard it is to let go of fear and trust that things will be okay. Here’s what you can do:

1. Praise God and Speak Truth Over Your Baby

Celebrate the life growing inside of you and thank God for His faithfulness. One way to combat fear and anxiety is to choose a Bible verse for your baby. Write it down, memorize it, and speak it over your heart and your pregnancy.

Here’s one of my favorite reminders: “Perfect love casts out fear” (1 John 4:18). When fear creeps in, turn to the truth of God’s Word. The enemy wants to attack you with lies, but you can fight back with the promises of Scripture.

2. Advocate for Yourself

Work with your provider to ensure you’re doing everything possible to support your pregnancy. Ask questions like:

• Do I need progesterone supplements?
• Am I taking the right prenatal vitamins?
• What can I do nutritionally to give my body and baby the best support?

If something doesn’t feel right or you don’t feel fully supported by your provider, don’t hesitate to seek a second opinion. You deserve care that makes you feel safe, confident, and cared for.

3. Prepare for a Healthy Pregnancy and Birth

Once the immediate scare has passed, shift your focus to a healthy, joyful pregnancy. Learn about what your body needs to thrive, from nutrition to exercise to stress management. Build a birth plan that reflects your values and goals.

If this feels overwhelming, I’d love to walk alongside you. I offer doula coaching calls to help women navigate their pregnancies with confidence and peace. Whether it’s building a birth plan, choosing the right supplements, or preparing emotionally for what’s ahead, I’m here for you. Learn more about my doula services here.

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A Final Word of Encouragement

Whether you’re in the midst of a miscarriage, recovering from one, or supporting someone else through it, I pray this post brings clarity, comfort, and hope. You are not alone, sister. God sees every tear, hears every prayer, and holds you and your baby close to His heart.

If you’re grieving a loss, my heart breaks with you. If your baby is still holding on, I’m rejoicing with you. Either way, I’m here to walk alongside you, to offer support, and to help you navigate this season with hope. 

If you’re navigating the aftermath of miscarriage or preparing to conceive again, consider taking this Hormone Quiz. Additionally, tools like charting your cycle and supporting your hormones can empower you as you move forward. In my Fertility Framework course I have served dozens of women as a certified FEMM Educator and FIAT Institute Hormone Coach, and it would be my joy and privilege to help you! If you need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I would be honored to be that safe space for you.

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