There are moments in the trying-to-conceive journey where you realize you are carrying more than one kind of weight. There’s the physical weight – charting, testing, supplements, “try again next month.” But there’s the emotional and spiritual weight too – the disappointment, the prayers, the tension in your marriage, and the quiet fear that your body might be failing you.

If that’s you, I want to pause before we talk about anything scientific or practical and point your heart to the Word of God.

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Before the Science, There is Scripture

When I recorded this podcast episode, I sat in the Psalms, and the Lord made it clear: someone listening needed Psalm 20 spoken over them.

If you are in a hard season with long cycles, confusing symptoms, strained intimacy, disappointment, miscarriages, or simply waiting for those two pink lines, God sees you. You are not making this journey alone.

The passage goes on to say: “Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God.” (Psalm 20:7)

Modern translation? Some trust in doctors. Some trust in fertility specialists. Some trust in medication or procedures. But we, as daughters of God, place our hope in Him – the Author of life and the One who forms babies in the hidden, holy places of the womb. That does not mean we ignore science or practical wisdom. It means we anchor our trust in the One who never fails.

So let’s talk about the practical side today, especially three topics many women aren’t told enough about..

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1. The Male Fertility Factor is A Real Thing

One of the most surprising truths for many couples is this:

• One-third of fertility struggles come from the woman
• One-third come from the man
• One-third are a combination of both

But far too many women have been led to believe that everything rests on their shoulders. Here’s encouraging news: for men, improving fertility is often simpler, faster, and more straightforward than it is for women.

A man’s sperm quality can be significantly improved with basic lifestyle changes: nutrition, hydration, movement, sleep, cutting sugary sodas or energy drinks, and lowering inflammatory foods. Even something as simple as switching from soda to a healthier alternative begins improving sperm quality. It won’t show up on a semen analysis overnight, it takes about 90 days for sperm improvements to show in testing and function, but the body responds quickly to better care. That means your husband is not a background character in this story. He is half the genetic code of your future child. His lifestyle matters too.

Inside Fertility Framework, I actually have a section just for husbands, because it is so powerful when a husband partners with his wife in learning, supporting, praying, and changing together. I’ve had husbands show up on group coaching calls, ask questions, and even stand in for their wives when they couldn’t attend. That is unity. That is humility. And that is powerful.

If there’s something going on with your husband like energy, diet, prior toxin exposure, stress, sleep, supporting him is a strategic, God-honoring step in your journey.

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2. Late Ovulation Doesn’t Always Mean Something Is Wrong

Let’s talk about cycles, especially when they feel confusing, irregular, or “late.” The first half of your cycle is called the follicular phase, and it can change in length from month to month. That means that a 15-day follicular phase one month and then a 20-day follicular phase the next month can be totally normal. Stress, illness, travel, poor sleep, and changes in nutrition can shift ovulation later without signaling a hormonal crisis.

Now, if you consistently ovulate very late (cycle day 25–30+), that’s a sign your body is working extra hard and needs support. But even that is not a dead end. It simply means we ask different questions:

• Is stress high?
• Is sleep poor?
• Are minerals low?
• Are blood sugar swings happening?
• Is the liver overloaded?
• Is the gut inflamed?

When we identify what’s slowing ovulation, the body responds beautifully. The good news is that when you learn a fertility awareness method like FEM (which we teach inside Fertility Framework), you can clearly see what your body is doing instead of guessing.

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3. OPK’S Alone Are Not Enough

Ovulation predictor kits (OPKs) are helpful, but they cannot confirm ovulation by themselves. That’s because: OPKs predict a possible ovulation. But they cannot confirm that ovulation actually happened. This is why charting is so powerful.

Inside Fertility Framework, I teach multiple biomarkers:

• Cervical mucus (the #1 most accurate sign)
• Basal body temperature
• Symptom tracking
• Optional hormone tracking tools like AneeTo

Most women are never taught this. Many doctors don’t know how to interpret charts. That leaves women confused, anxious, or falsely discouraged. Your body is not mysterious, it is speaking. We just need to learn the language.

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4. Timing Intimacy Can Bring Unity, Not Pressure

Now let’s talk about timing intercourse, because there is a LOT of bad advice out there, even from professionals. Women have told me their doctor instructed them to have sex every single day of the entire cycle. Others were told every other day all month long. Sister… that makes no biological sense. A woman is fertile for 5–7 days each cycle. Feeling the pressure to be intimate every day or every other day brings discouragement and exhaustion, especially when emotions are already heavy.

With charting, you can identify your fertile window clearly. For most couples, every other day during the fertile window or once every 2–3 days is more than enough. Sperm needs time to rebuild, and forcing intimacy daily can actually reduce sperm quality. Timing intimacy with peace and wisdom brings unity, not strain. When your husband understands the science, the emotional and spiritual weight, and the hope behind timing, it draws your marriage closer instead of pushing you apart.

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This is Not All On You

I want you to hear this clearly:

• You don’t have to figure out your body alone
• You don’t have to guess if you’re ovulating
• You don’t have to shoulder the emotional and spiritual weight of this journey by yourself
• And you don’t have to do it without hope

Psalm 20 reminds us that God is actively present. He protects. He remembers. He hears. He gives the desires of the heart in His timing. You can ask Him boldly. You can hope expectantly. You can keep taking the next right step.

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