Why Not Just Be A Fertility Coach?

If you’ve been in my world for a while, you know me first as a fertility and hormone coach. After a few years of that work, I had found a rhythm that felt full and meaningful. So why add something else to my plate?

The answer begins — as so many of the most important things in my life do — with loss, and with the daughter who came after it.

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After Three Losses, a Rainbow

If you know about my three losses, then you also know about my precious rainbow baby. The daughter the Lord gave us after a six-month healing journey marked by big changes — physically, emotionally, and spiritually. (Just ask my husband about the dramatic increase of lettuce and greens that made their way into our meals.)

This pregnancy was sacred in a way that’s hard to put into words. So deeply desired, prayed over, and wanted. After everything we had walked through — the grief of loss layered with the discipline of significant lifestyle changes — I wanted to honor this child and this pregnancy in every way I could. Naturally, and in God’s design.

That desire led me toward something I hadn’t chosen before: a natural birth.

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The Plans That Got Bumpy

We were planning to deliver at Swedish Hospital in Denver. It felt like a good plan — until a particularly bumpy drive down I-25 at 30 weeks pregnant, from Erie all the way to Colorado Springs, settled something in my spirit. There was simply no way I could make that drive while in labor. With traffic, it could take anywhere from 40 minutes to an hour and a half — and my intuition was telling me, clearly, that this was not going to work. (Spoiler: that intuition was right.)

Around the same time, I had a prenatal appointment that left me unsettled in a different way. A student resident was tasked with admonishing me to receive the Tdap vaccine. I listened respectfully to his pitch and declined, letting him know I had done my own research and felt confident in my decision. Rather than honoring that, he pushed — repeatedly, and with a forcefulness that felt more like pressure than care.

Eventually, the NP stepped in and made clear that my choice would be respected, although she also gave her speech about why I should get it. This experience stayed with me.

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A Suggestion From My Doula That Changed Everything

Between the I-25 situation and that appointment, I called my doula. I asked if she knew of any Christian care providers who would better support my desire to approach pregnancy and birth naturally.

She suggested I speak with a homebirth midwife — one she loved and trusted deeply.

My immediate response? Absolutely not. A homebirth was never something I had considered, and I told her so. But I also believe in fairness, so I agreed to at least have the conversation.

That single phone call changed everything.

Not just the outcome of my pregnancy and birth — but the legacy that God began building through me and through my daughters from that moment forward.

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I’ll save the rest of the story for next month. But I’ll say this: sometimes the thing you never considered is exactly the thing the Lord has been preparing for you all along.

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